Look for these three signs that someone is “uncoachable”:
- He has no problem. If he doesn’t want to change, he won’t be able to. Don’t waste your time trying to force him to see the error of his ways.
- He’s in the wrong job. Ask him, “If the company shut down today, would you be relieved, surprised, or sad?” If he says “relieved,” help him to figure out what’s next. There is no use in coaching someone who is truly unhappy about his job.
- Everyone else is the problem. It’s impossible to help someone who blames everyone else for his problems. Move on — find someone who is ready to admit his problematic behaviors and accept your help.