We all tend to hide our failures from others for fear of their reactions or judgment. But this insistence on appearing in control at all times puts a huge burden on our shoulders. Research shows that sharing our ups and downs helps us build deeper connections with others. You might be surprised to see how showing vulnerability actually wins you more respect from other people — who may then be inclined to confide in you about their challenges. By hiding our disappointments, we present idealized versions of ourselves, which separates us from others.
So if we instead share what’s real, whether good or bad (but in the right way and in the right context), we can connect better with other people.